I was reading Mumsyhood's blog and she mentioned how her daughter is having some 'seperatoin anxiety' - or at least that's what it kind of sounds like. It is very much what we are experiencing here. My daughter has been going through the same thing starting about a week ago. I read about this but did not think it would happen yet. Guess what. It is.
About a week ago, she started getting very whiny every time I left the room or left her sight for a few seconds. She does it a little bit with Daddy, but mostly with me, to the point where she would start crying. I would come back into her line of sight, and she would whine even more. So I caved in and picked her up. Wonder of all wonders - she stops crying instantly. Like a light switch being shut off. What is this crap?! Oh and did I mention the pathetic face she gives me, with the tears and red eyes & nose - looking at me with all the love in the world. It just makes me want to hug her and never let go.
I have given her a toy a few times to distract her, and sometimes it works. Other times, nothing makes her happy until Mommy comes to pick her up. *sigh*
"Mommy Don't leave me"
I too have my own separation anxiety from Julianna sometimes. My husband and I have a ritual before we go to bed, we always sneak into her room and check on her. We watch her sleep for a few minutes and smile. I love watching her sleep. So innocent & peaceful with her precious little 'cupid bow' lips. I just wish I could hop in her crib and snuggle with her. I hate walking out and leaving her alone in her room. It's weird that I feel that way since she never slept in our room, not one night even. She went right in her crib the night she came home.
Fridays are bad for me too. From about lunchtime on, my heart aches to see Julianna and to hold her. I think it's the fact that I know we will have all weekend with her and I can't wait to spend time together as a family. So yeah, I guess I have it a little bit too.
The good thing is, she does not cry when we drop her at daycare or pick her up. She loves Miss Cathy. I guess since she has been going there for 4 months, she is used to her and forgets all about us. Sometimes when I pick her up from daycare, I barely get a glance and a smile from Julianna until I pick her up to leave. She doesn't have the anxiety when we are outside the house, I guess it's because she is distracted with other things.
I found the following on the AAP website:
How long should you expect this separation anxiety to last?
It usually peaks between ten and eighteen months and then fades during the last half of the second year.
18 months? Seriously. This is going to be a long 10 months ahead of us! It also has suggestions to help make it easier on both of us. Guess I will be following those rules to a Tee. LOL!
Anyone else going through this or went through this?
What did you do to make it easier?